Parents always want the best for their children and “success” in a child would be defined many different ways. So how do you raise successful kids with strong character? As we teach our kids, the goal is to build a strong vibrant kids that respond to all situations around them with personal responsibility, caring for others and a strong self esteem to accomplish what God given tasks they have in life. Mom Life is sometimes about building character in our kids.
“That’s exactly the way parents develop positive, successful kids. Don’t look for the flaws, warts, and blemishes. Look for the gold, not for the dirt; the good, not the bad. Look for the positive aspects of life. Like everything else, the more good qualities we look for in our children, the more good qualities we are going to find”. – Zig Ziglar
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Successful Kids Serve Others
While they might be your world, children need to know that the real world doesn’t revolve around them and there are so many people around them that need help or an act of kindness shown to them. If we emphasize to the child the needs around them, the child will learn to recognize and serve those in need. Raising successful kids will require you as the parent to model in front of your kids service in your own community and leading them as you serve.
Let Them Make Mistakes And Teach Them To Learn From It
It tends to be difficult to fight the temptation to protect our children when they’re in a tough situation, however once in a while—when there’s no genuine threat, obviously—we have to let them make their own mistakes. Raising successful kids requires letting the kids fall!
That may mean your 5-year-old tumbles out of her chair, after you have told her not to stand on it. Or your child may forget the school PE uniform that he overlooked at home and you may choose NOT to go back to the school after class has started to take it to him. The world won’t stop turning if these missteps occur, and they can prompt long-lasting learning for your child that is unquestionably more significant than the ones we attempt to teach our kids by doing the task for them.
Set Boundaries and it’s OK to Say “NO”
According to Psychology today in their article How and When to say no to Kids, “Mountains of research show that the parenting style that is most beneficial for children involves a combination of warmth and limits. As an adult, you have a breadth of knowledge and experience that your child just doesn’t.” Saying ‘No’ is very important to set boundaries with your kids, to teach them to put others needs as a priority, and learn right and wrong behavior.
Teach them to be Thankful and Grateful
You positively influence your kids when you teach them to be grateful for everyone that loves them and for everything they have.. And also when they see you modeling thankfulness and gratefulness towards others, they will learn from you. Teaching your kids the importance of compassion, helpfulness, and gratitude a key element in your child’s overall growth. Introduce your kid to thankfulness and gratitude so that your child will always remain appreciative in his life.
Build their self esteem by reminding them how special they are.
Make sure that whether your kids succeed or not, they know that you love them unconditionally. And always offer appropriate praise to the child. Telling them they are the ultimate, best, and greatest child in everything they do may set them up for failure. Instead encourage them to focus on and develop their talents and gifts. Most importantly, remind them they are created in God’s image and loved by Him!
“Behind every young child who believes in himself is a parent who believed first.” – MatthewLJacobson.com
Spend one on one time with them
Make them feel important spending time with just them. In our family, we have mommy/C day or Mommy/G day where we would eat ice cream sandwiches for breakfast or basically give the child freedom to suggest the fun things to be done that day. And make sure to point out that you are spending that one on one time with them to lock it in their memory so they will always treasure it.
Monitor with Diligence who your child is Spending the time with.
Peers and peer groups can make or break your child’s path to success. You can do everything at home to teach them character, but the influence of their peers will have a profound effect on the path they choose. I recommend getting to know the parents of the kids your kids are spending time with.
Successful kids help you around the House
Chores establish responsibility as they makes the child responsible for taking care of a task. Offer positive choices to your kids such as teaching them to clean up their own room, they will earn time to watch their favorite tv series or play video games. If you apply this positive tip, your child will develop self control and learn to work hard to earn a reward.
Encourage them to establish healthy and productive habits
Eating healthy, establishing routines that include sports and exercise, journaling, and healthy affirmations are things that adults set out to achieve and those can also be taught to kids on their individual level. You can set boundaries for your kids to encourage and reward them regarding the benefits of sleeping, eating a balanced diet, and remaining active in the day to day activities, and renewing their mind. Encourage them to turn off their devices and go outside when possible.
Encourage them to Set Achievable Goals
Spend time with your child and find out what dreams they have to accomplish. The goal may be as big as choosing a college career path or it could be a small task they want to learn to do such as riding a bike. Recognize and discuss the steps needed to accomplish the goal and the obstacles that may get in their way. Encourage them that it takes hard work to be successful kids and provide them with positive feedback along the way.
Encourage Them To Never Give Up!
As a parent, it’s your responsibility to encourage your child to keep trying! You should encourage your child to get up and try again. Maybe your kids are involved in sports activities and someday, he/she is depressed about his performance in sports, then is the time you should act as a pillar and ask your child that it’s a bad day, not a bad life.
So which of these tips to raise a successful kid have inspired you the most? Share your thoughts in the comments section.
Also check out our post on the Benefits of Family Time